A common misunderstanding pitfall that will ruin any relationship is an obsession with being “right.” If you are in a conflict, and your goal is to prove the other wrong, you are setting yourself up for an even bigger fight.
The reason letting go of “being right” is so important is people want to be heard. People want to be understood. It rarely has to do with whether you’re right or not.
The more important skill to harness is uncovering the missing information that your partner holds, and not getting trapped in the “you’re wrong and I’m right” vortex. When misunderstandings take place, we want to ask our partner, “What happened? Why was it important to you? What can I do
differently? What upset you the most?”
Let go of being right; it is a battleground that results in very little, and if done enough times, can cost you your relationship.
